Saturday, May 21, 2011

Should I Take It Off?

I've been divorced for almost ten years.

Shortly after I became a single parent, I had my mother's engagement diamonds, which she had had set into a brooch for me several years ago (more than several; it was back in the 80s when high-collared Gunne Sax blouses were in style and the brooch was a bar pin with the diamonds set in it), made into a tulip-set solitaire ring and a pair of earrings.

I've worn the ring constantly since I picked it up from the jeweler.

I tell people who ask, that it's my "leave me alone" ring.

I think it may be time to take it off.

I just think maybe someone is out there and if I run into him, he won't bother because of the rock on the third finger of my left hand (it's not huge, but it isn't tiny either, and it's really very pretty).

If nothing else, it will be humbling to run around without a ring on that finger to hide both the tan line and the callus that come from wearing a ring on the same finger for......well, a lot of years.
What do YOU think?  I'm open to suggestions.


  1. Well, I'm a bit jaded on the subject, but this is what I did. When I kicked my now-ex out, I wore my rings for a few more weeks - basically until he made me so angry that I took them off out of spite (and then sold one on ebay and one at the pawn shop). I haven't worn one since.

    But your situation is much different. I say if you are questioning whether you *should* keep wearing it, then maybe it's time to take it off. If you're considering meeting someone, you're right that it could keep someone away - at least someone who respects the meaning of a ring on the left hand.

    And it's not like whatever you decide is permanent. Take it off when you want to, put it on when you want to. Wear it on your right hand if it fits. I have to admit that it is a different feeling to NOT wear one - I still catch myself reaching for my rings to fiddle with them. =/

  2. I agree with the right hand thing that Amy said.

  3. Lol, I just tried and it won't fit on my right hand!

  4. Ditto. Right hand...and go get it sized :P

  5. What Whimzee said: go get it sized and wear it on your right hand. :)

  6. It's off at the moment; I took it off to bake bread last night and left it lying on the shelf in the kitchen. I will see about getting it sized when I get back from Indianapolis next week, probably. My finger feels nekkid. :)